It’s the most wonderful time of the year – when your diary starts filling up at an alarming rate, you’re panicking about seeing everyone, and trying to fit in present buying, wrapping, and generally being the best, most organised, and kindest person you can be.

But are you remembering to be kind to yourself this Christmas?

I love the run up to Christmas – the buzz, and being sociable – but it doesn’t take long for me to get burnt out and need some time alone. I start to crave being at home with some quiet music playing, a couple of soy candles burning, and a pen and paper.

Of course, Christmas is the season of giving, but that doesn’t mean you should forget yourself and what you need. We put so much pressure on ourselves to give amazing gifts, throw the perfect party and be constantly jolly this time of year, and so many of us end up really stressed out and unable to enjoy it.

1. Schedule some quiet alone time

If it’s possible, schedule in a little time to relax by yourself. Quiet time is incredibly important to quell the overwhelm, especially if you’re a bit of an introvert like me – I’m already eyeing up a few hours here and there over the coming weeks that I’m hoping to keep for myself, not saying yes to every single invitation, and keeping a couple of evenings free.

2. Avoid the screens

My favourite way to spend an evening alone always involves candles, my favourite calm playlist, and something other than my screen to occupy me – whether that be reading, writing, or drawing – though I always find it very difficult not to succumb to the lure of my phone.

3. Write out your feelings

I’ve been finding it really helpful to sit and write down how I’m feeling whenever I start noticing that overwhelm bubbling up. I just write and write every tiny thing that is on my mind, and I feel so much better to have it out of my head and slightly more in order. It’s an exercise I come back to every now and then, when everything feels like it’s speeding up.

4. Make a manageable to do list

To stop the stressful feelings, I also try to break to do lists down into manageable tasks, and focus on the good, calm things I’m looking forward to – sitting by the log fire at my mum’s with a drink, baking gingerbread, taking time to write heartfelt cards. All of these conjure up relaxing images in my head, and help me to really look forward to the season.

How do you find calm during this time of year?